The narcissist's False Self serves as a buffer and as a shock absorber between the True Ego and the narcissist's sadistic, punishing, immature Superego. The narcissist has a different psychodynamic. The Superego in healthy people constantly compares the Ego to the Ego Ideal. The preconscious and conscious parts are detached from it by early traumas and form the False Ego. The narcissist's Ego is completely submerged. The classical Ego, proposed by Freud, is partly conscious and partly preconscious and unconscious. Rather than risking constant conflict, the narcissist opts for a solution of "disengagement". The False Self pretends to be the only self and denies the existence of a True Self. As long as the True Self and the False Self remain out of touch, conflict is excluded. That a personality structure (such as the True Self) is in the unconscious does not automatically mean that it is conflict-generating, or that it is involved in conflict, or that it has the potential to provoke conflict. This bottled up, self-directed venom is bound to resurface if the narcissist's various personality structures are coerced into making contact. The alternative to this (mal)adaptation would have been self-destructive (suicidal). The narcissist's disorder is adaptive and functional, though rigid. The True Self is isolated, repressed, unconscious, a shadow of its former self.įorcing the narcissist's False Self to acknowledge and interact with his True Self is not only difficult but may also be counterproductive and dangerously destabilising. Only the False Self gets in touch with the world. The narcissist needs the input of the outside world to perform the most basic Ego functions (e.g., "recognition" of the world, setting boundaries, differentiation, self-esteem and regulation of a sense of self-worth). In narcissists, the Ego is dormant, comatose. In healthy people, Ego functions are generated from the inside, from the Ego. The narcissist's True Self is introverted and dysfunctional. How do you settle this apparent contradiction? Sometimes you say that the narcissist's True Self has relegated its functions to the outside world - and sometimes you say that it is not in touch with the outside world (or that only the False Self is in touch with it).
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